Are you battling with emotional issues that have you feeling like there is nowhere to turn? have you suffered a lose that left you with a sense of helplessness, hopelessness, and emptiness?

Grief is a reaction to loss that can transform you. Grief could come in different forms: it could be the loss of loved one, loss of a relationship, a pet, ill parent, a volatile divorce, a job; we are never prepared to face these losses.

So they catch us defenseless leaving a big vacuum in our lives. We all react to grief in different ways, some try to shut it down rather than express what they are feeling. What are the good ways to grief?

1. Face your feeling- rather than being in denial of the situation, the fact is, what you are facing is real and your reaction is also real.
2. Express your feeling in a tangible or creative way- it’s natural to be angry but never lose yourself that you will engage in harmful behavior either to yourself or those around you.
3. Look after your health- you need all the strength you can muster during your time of grief don’t waste it on lying around doing nothing. Never lean toward drugs or alcohols it will just provide temporal relieve and when it wears out you are face to face with your grief.
4. Plan ahead for grief “triggers”- during or after your grief you will have many instances that will reawaken memories and feelings know that it is normal. But you are not trapped in those feelings.

Letting grief flow is the first steps to healing rather than attempting to change it or get it over with. Unlike depression grief has a way of healing itself if allowed to take its natural process. Inhibiting this process is what turns grief to depression.

The first reaction to loss is shock followed by rage, anxiety, and sadness. Losing some thing we hold dear raises torrent of feelings with their own momentum.

Am not going to promise you that you will just wake up one morning and find all your grieves gone. Getting over grief is a process that does not happen overnight.

Some grieves never fully go away, but they should never be the center of your life.

If the grief is constant or severe that it prevents you from resuming your normal life, it is possible that you are suffering from a medical condition known as complicated grief. Complicated grief is like being stuck in an intense state of mourning.

You may have hard time accepting what had happened or preoccupied with the past that your life looks like it’s on a stand still. Signs that you need help:

• You experience extreme anger or bitterness over the loss
• Feeling that life is empty or meaningless
• You are losing sleep
• You’re becoming accident-prone
• Your relationships are suffering